"Your strong feelings about an issue aren't necessarily shared by each and every one of your friends, so be careful not to make assumptions today when the conversation turns toward a topic you feel passionately about. Slow down your excitement. Let other people get a word in edgewise -- that's the best way for everyone to understand what's behind their viewpoints. They can better understand why you feel the way you feel only after they feel you are trying to understand them."
I learned this from a friend of mine who I previously worked with. "Silent-coexistence". During my first few days at work. I tend to have some conflicts with my co-worker. Not really agreeing to their way of life at work. All the corruptions and illegalities. I learned from school to always voice out your concern so that you will be heard. But during my early days at work, I learned that it does not really work like that. Especially whenever the person you are not agreeing with is your boss. Just a quick advice..."KEEP IT TO YOURSELF". I learned that the more I rebel, the more I get into trouble, instead of being able to fix the issue, it tends to go back to me and it buried me deeper and deeper until I don't have any choice left.
And then I learned to keep my mouth shut. Just try to think of a better solution rather than rambling about what I don't want or whatever is happening that is not appealing to my beliefs.
And then I learned this from the Bible:
Proverbs 15:1
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 10:19 (New International Reader's Version)
19 Those who talk a lot are likely to sin. But those who control their tongues are wise.
19 Those who talk a lot are likely to sin. But those who control their tongues are wise.
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